Geoffrey Thomas

LMHC

Licensed Mental Health Counselor

License Number LH60982480

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You feel like you’re constantly shaping yourself to meet others’ expectations, but doing so makes you feel like you’re losing touch with what truly makes you happy, with who you really are. You put so much energy into being there for others, yet you only feel drained at the end of the day. You take on a lot of responsibility for your family, your friends, and the people you care about most, but your own needs keep getting pushed to the side.

You feel exhausted from holding it all together, but you rarely get the space to take care of yourself. You value your relationships but also sometimes find yourself feeling afraid of really trusting others enough to let your guard down.

In your romantic relationships, you keep feeling lonely and disconnected, sometimes pushing people away but then later regretting it. When you try to talk about problems with your partner, you get overwhelmed and shut down without feeling like your partner really understands your perspective.

You wonder whether you matter as much to other people as they do to you.

You think about how hard you try to connect with others, but somehow, you keep pushing them away.

You never quite feel like who you are is good enough to be loved by others. You work so hard to make everything perfect, and when it goes well, you don’t feel proud; you just feel relieved that you escaped rejection for now. When it goes poorly, it is just proof of every negative thing you tell yourself.

You keep pouring your time and energy into your relationships but keep feeling unfulfilled and lonely. You get worn down, hurt, and resentful, but when you try to communicate it with your partner, it sets off the same old argument that leaves both of you feeling even more hurt and alone.

You can’t stand feeling invisible, but you’re also afraid of really being seen. Intimacy can feel overwhelming, but loneliness feels unbearable. You are afraid that you are both too much for others and not enough. You worry that the people closest to you or your partner could never accept you as you are, but you also worry that you cannot stay hidden forever.

You want to feel like you don’t have to be perfect in order to be accepted by others. You want to feel safe enough in your relationships to show your messy side and to be trusted enough to see the messy side of others. You want to feel like you can be close to others without losing yourself. You want to feel secure enough in yourself to be vulnerable with others.

Freedom from the impossible expectations you place on yourself to keep it all together while never asking for help. Freedom to be your authentic self and not let others’ acceptance or rejection of you rule your life. Being close with others without feeling like you are being smothered.

You worry that you are burdening others with their problems or feel ashamed that you need help. You think depending on others might mean setting yourself up to get let down. You might feel desperate to get help but feel too afraid to admit just how much your problems have made a mess of your life. You worry that needing help in your relationship means admitting defeat. That talking to a professional means the beginning of the end of the relationship.

The hardest step in the change process is when you become aware of a problem but still watch yourself make the same mistakes over and over (and then beat yourself up about it). You recognize what you are doing but can’t seem to break the cycle. But transformation is never a straight line, and it doesn’t happen all at once. It’s a winding journey with many detours and pitfalls. Realizing your part in it means you’ve already taken the most important step in the journey to something new.

Trusting others with our hearts is one of the most difficult things to do, even more so if you’ve been hurt before. It’s hard to trust others until you know they won’t hurt you, but you don’t know how they’ll treat you until you trust them.

I enjoy working with people who are curious about themselves, others, and the world; imaginative; humorous; intense feelers; honest; skeptical; people pleasers; open to new ideas/experiences; and insightful

I don’t enjoy working with people who are overly rigid, cruel, narcissistic, deceptive, gullible, or overly deferential.

I help people to be kinder to themselves by showing them that their struggles aren’t just problems—they’re actually old solutions that may not be working anymore. I help clients understand why their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors started in the first place and how they were trying to help in some way. Then, I support them in building the confidence and skills to replace those habits with healthier ones that match their values and goals. Instead of trying to "fix" themselves, I encourage them to let go of the things that no longer help them or no longer feel true to who they really are.

Often, we focus too much on changing the things we don’t like about ourselves and only get more discouraged. The irony is that when we truly begin to accept ourselves, we can’t help but transform. We might think that we just need to push ourselves harder to be better, but this often just leads to more stress, burnout, and avoidance. When we tap into compassion for ourselves, we can begin to give ourselves permission to nourish ourselves and grow a little bit every day. You show strength and commitment every day to those around you; imagine what could happen if you started directing just some of that strength and commitment toward yourself.

For couples, I am a translator who helps both partners understand and be understood. Mapmaker for your emotional landscape. Guide to help you navigate emotions with more clarity and direction. Anchor for the inner storm. Bridge builder from isolation to connection. Compass to help you rediscover your True North. I can help you prepare for the journey and leave behind what no longer serves you.

I am a cisgender male. I am a Chilean-American transracial/transcultural adoptee.

Clinical Specialties

ADHD

Adolescents

Adoption

Anger Management

Anxiety

Bisexual

Codependency

Coping Skills

Cultural adjustment

Depression

Divorce

Family conflict

Grief and Loss

Imposter syndrome

Infidelity

Intergenerational trauma

Life transitions

Marital and premarital counseling

Men's issues

Parenting

Peer relationships

Perfectionism

Racial identity

Relationship issues

School issues

Self esteem

Sexual identity

Stress

Trauma and PTSD

I grew up in a small, rural town in northern California with a somewhat unconventional family. My parents never hid the fact that I was adopted, but making sense of this fact often took a backseat to dealing with the more immediate challenges we faced as a family.

When I finally did start exploring my identity, I found myself more confused than ever. What does it mean to be family if we are not related? What bonds people together beyond blood? How does ancestry shape us? Am I Chilean if I have no memory of Chile? Am I white-passing if I look just “not white” enough to get noticed? What does it mean to be a “real” man, anyway?

My journey often left me with more questions than answers, but I’ve come to be grateful for the awareness and curiosity it has given me about the diverse and complex expressions of individual, family, and cultural identity. In struggling through my own twists and turns, I also learned that my relationships with others were my biggest source of resilience - that we are stronger together, and none of us can do it alone.

My lifelong career as a helper has grown naturally from my desire to understand the healing power of relationships and how I could help others make meaning out of their own confusing and painful experiences.

I love playing music and seeing live music around Seattle, going on (easy) runs, reading (mostly science fiction, fantasy, and non-fiction), and making DIY projects of all kinds. I am a music maker, punk rocker, slow runner, nerdy reader, DIY builder, outdoor explorer, and nature lover.

I earned my Bachelor’s Degree from San Francisco State University, where I studied Child and Adolescent Development, with a focus on Youth and Family Services. I interned with a high school teacher who used backpacking, boat-building, native plant restoration, and community service to teach academic subjects to at-risk youth. I also earned a Minor in Recreation and Leisure Studies, which sounds like fun and games (and it was) but also gave me an understanding of the process of “re-creating” ourselves that I still use in my work today.

After graduating, I moved to Idaho to work for an outdoor therapy program where I helped adolescents learn emotional growth skills while backpacking through the wilderness. I then went on to earn my Master of Science in Counseling Psychology with a focus in Couple and Family Therapy from Prescott College in Arizona. While earning my Master’s Degree, I worked at a family services clinic where I provided therapy to adolescents, families, and young adults.

I moved to Seattle in 2015 and began working at a community mental health clinic where I specialized in therapy for adolescents, families, and couples. I also became an Approved Supervisor and provided clinical training and supervision to interns and associates.

Phone Consultation	15 minutes	Free
Individual Intake Session	60 minutes	$350
Couples Intake Session	60 minutes	$350
Individual Therapy Session (In-person or Online)	60 minutes	$320
Couples Therapy Session (In-person or Online)	60 minutes	$320

I am not paneled with any insurance company. My clients attend therapy on an out-of-network basis or pay for sessions out of pocket. If you would like to use your out-of-network benefits, please contact your insurance company prior to our first meeting. Ask what the out-of-network reimbursement would be for outpatient in-person or online psychotherapy. The specific amount of this reimbursement depends on your plan. I will provide you with the statements your insurance requires.

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Make sure your health care provider gives you a Good Faith Estimate in writing at least 1 business day before your medical service or item. You can also ask your health care provider, and any other provider you choose, for a Good Faith Estimate before you schedule an item or service.
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